Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Secrets for Dads From a Daughter



Art by Hannah Joiner

I believe some things, not all things happen for a reason. Tonight or this morning whatever side of the spectrum your on, found myself up for the day at 5am and stirring since 3am. Deciding to check out a few sites to see what I could find. I came across an article I found very interesting and felt I could relate in so many ways. But, like so many moments we come across we usually relate mostly to one side. This time however, I could relate on both. Now, I'm not talking right or wrong just pure emotions. The kind of emotions only a parent can understand. I've been the teenager. I'm now the parent. This is my reason for a very early morning and bringing to a long day. I've had plenty of nights laying awake over decisions I've made. But, nothing compares to the helpless feeling of laying awake over a decision your child has made.  The reason I'm posting this is because I feel there might be others in the same position and sometimes in order to understand and learn you have to hear it from different angles.

Secrets for Dads From a Daughter

17 comments:

  1. Wow. I am certain I did this to my parents and I do not look forward to having my turn :-(

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  3. I know, it's weird how all the things that make you so angry with your parents as a child, are all the things that let you know they loved you, when you become an adult. (or at least when you have your own kids) (:

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  4. I wish my father would have been invested in my life. He wasn't though he was ever present. You know, I can STILL relate to this post because, now, as a mom, I can totally relate, watching my husband with my kiddos. I am sure this is exactly how they will communicate with him as a father!

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    1. Hey Jacqueline
      We appreciate your thoughts on this. Its funny when I read this it made me think of me and my son. He recently made a few decisions I wish were different. first I was really angery then disappointed and it made for a very long night for me. When I came across this article it made me understand that this was the outlook I needed. My son will be 17 very soon and its time for him to and for us to allow mistakes to be made with out freaking out and in this case thats exactly what I did. I let him know I didnt approve and why I didnt but that we all get to a point in life where we have to start making decisions and fall on face on our own. Its funny I got a different reaction then I expected and it was a good one.Have a great day :)

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  5. Oh I know I did this to my grandparents (they raised me) and I remember my grandmother always saying (you will reap what you sow just wait) Now that I am the mama of 3 teenage boys and 3 little ones, oh yes payback is on me now!

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  6. Been there, still there...

    Good post.

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  7. Great post!
    I didn't grow up with a father. I guess some part of me missed him. they say you can't miss what you never had. If that were true - why did I often think about what he would mean in my life? Why I missed him without ever really knowing him?

    It's tough and now that my kids have a dad in their life and I've gained one (My father in law( I can't help but be grateful that I've done something right.

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    1. And I think it's usually the Dad who misses out in the long run. Kids usually do just fine when their surrounded by people (of both sex)who love them in their lives. Sounds to me like you we're one of those kids.(:

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  8. I think I must be very lucky to have a Dad who was always very present and invested, and I think all 7 of us can say that. Parenting is really tough, and not everyone is great at it, but if you're thinking about being a good parent, you probably are:)

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  9. Wow, that was so great. Since we have four daughters, I immediately sent a link to my hubby. Thanks so much for sharing that!

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    1. I'm glad you we're able to share this, Thanks for sharing.(:

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  10. I love that some people are willing to share their stories and experiences with others. It does help you see your own experiences from more than one angle.
    Thanks for sharing,
    Kristina

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  11. That is a great article. My dad didn't have a strong presence in my life. Wish I could have sent this to him while he was alive!

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  12. It's always good to see things from a different standpoint. It broadens our understanding of things and people. I didn't have a good relationship with my dad... I would've loved to send him something like this a long time ago.

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  13. When I was 23 my father suffered a very serious heart attack. It was really a blessing in disguise since it was the catalyst for us becoming closer. What a great post, thanks!

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